Hi Hollie,

That's a lovely gutsy write-up from you. All power to you for being able to put it out there. I hope it has been cathartic and somehow healing.

I felt a few readers here didn’t see that you are trying to heal from this wound/misstep you took. Do ignore their insensitive comments, as obviously, they missed deeply understanding your perspective.

Even though I have never been in your exact situation, I can identify with it, having turned down such overtures since my divorce. I wasn’t surprised when the cycle repeated in your story, in fact, I expected it. Cheating is a pattern hard to break for the immature. The simple reason for this is because it is not wrong for them. Why would anyone change something that is not wrong?

I agree with the comment that your article title is a little misleading. I too clicked to read about: the mind of a cheater. In contrast, however, I’m only glad I did. Since the topic interests me, I would like to add to your article with my own freewheeling take on the Cheating Spouse (both male and female). Feel free to link to it if you like it.

https://medium.com/anita-walker/why-do-people-cheat-1e9b6e2cd523

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